Keepers At Home — Part One

I know I’m entering serious ground and will step on one or the other toe today and in some of the following posts… But see, homemaking has been on my heart for a long, long time. How about you? Do you believe married women should stay at home? Or, should they have an outside job, too? Or, should they work from home — besides being a homemaker? At what stage should the woman stay and when should she go (back) to work?

I know many will argue that in today’s world the woman has to go to work because the second income is needed. Let’s put the finances aside for a moment. If money would not be the issue, what would your answer be (then)?

Titus 2:3-5 talks about the aged women — I’m one of them by now, I’m afraid 🙂 — how they should act and what they should teach the young women. Of course, we need to set a good example first before the younger women are willing to listen to us. Why should they, if our homes and our families are in a big mess? If it — what we teach — didn’t work for us, why should it work for them?

Let’s see what God’s Word (KJV) says what we need to be:

  • discreet
  • chaste
  • keepers at home
  • good
  • obedient to our own husband

and the reason being? That the Word of God be not blasphemed.

To me this is serious talk. I don’t want the Word of God to be blasphemed, do you? (In the ESV it says reviled which I find isn’t such a powerful word — so I used the KJV instead)

Now there is, amongst Christians, a discussion going on about how “much” the woman needs to stay at home and if it would be okay for her to work outside the home. I know that we do have situations when the woman has to work outside the home, e.g. single moms — I’ve been there! So, please do not go in defense right away.

My question is: if all the circumstances were right (finances okay, husband agrees) should a married woman be fully committed to keep the home / work at home? Why? Why not?

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Teach them diligently

Some questions that keep coming back to my mind — over and over and over again: Are Christians influenced by the world? If so, how much? And, more specifically: Should Christian children be sent out into the schools to evangelize?

I just recently had another discussion about homeschooling with a Christian family who believes that we should not keep our children at home but send them to public school so they could tell others about Jesus.

Evangelism 

Yes, we need to be soldiers of the LORD’s Army and go out into all the world and make disciples and tell people about Jesus Christ. But, let’s be honest: is it wise to send out soldiers before they went through basic training? Are they send out without working weapons? Which ones would more likely succeed: the ones that have weak bodies and/or are way too young?

Some argue that we need to send our children to public school so they can be salt and light to unbelievers…

Harvey Bluedorn of Trivium Pursuit argues best:

The question is: “Will our children act as salt in the government school, to sustain, preserve, fertilize, cleanse and flavor it; or will the government school wash the taste and usefulness out of our children and make them worthless salt?” Who is teaching whom in the government school? Government educators may not always be effective in teaching academic skills, but they are highly skilled and very effective in transmitting, in ever so subtle ways, the humanist world view. 

James tells us that we need to keep ourselves unstained from the world. (1:27) Are we seriously thinking that our young children can do that — keep themselves unspotted from the world while being under peer pressure and/or under the attack of a teacher who is an unbeliever?

Many (not all 😉 ) Germans are punctual. They like an uncluttered and clean home. So let’s use them as an illustration for this post: If Germans are no longer punctual, punctuality is no longer associated with Germans. Likewise, if Christians no longer live according to the Word of God, they are no longer associated with the Word — Christ Jesus.

What kind of testimonies do our lives present to the world?

We are in the world but should not be off (or influenced by) the world. God’s Word warns us: 

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,

I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they shall be my people.
Therefore go out from their midst,
and be ye separate from them, says the Lord,
and touch no unclean thing;
then I will welcome you,
and I will be a father to you,
and you shall be sons and daughters to me,
says the Lord Almighty.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 ESV

Yes, we need to be the salt of the earth. But salt that loses (or has already lost) its savor is no longer of any use! Matthew 5:13, Mark 9:50, Luke 14:34

Yes, homeschooling is for everyone but not everyone is for homeschooling… Sadly, there are situations in life (e.g. after a divorce) when a mother or a father cannot homeschool their child/ren. This post does not at all intend to point a finger at anybody who does not or cannot homeschool. But, on the other hand, this post should be considered worth thinking about!

If you are a Christian parent thinking about homeschooling or wanting to know more about teaching (your) children, please do take time to read:

Seven Undeniable Truths of Homeschooling by Harvey Bluedorn (Trivium Pursuit)

Socialization

Socialisation: the modification from infancy of an individual’s behaviour to conform with the demands of social life. — Collins English Dictionary

I love to chat about Christian education — especially whenever the word homeschooling comes up. One topic that’s almost always being discussed while talking about home education is socialization. It’s amazing how misunderstood this is — even amongst Christians!

If you read the definition Collins Dictionary provides (see top) it might not become as clear as if you read the words found in Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Socialization: the process by which a human being beginning at infancy acquires the habits, beliefs, and accumulated knowledge of society through education and training for adult status.Merriam Webster online dictionary

(emphasis mine)

I will be writing more about socialization in the near future but as for now I would like you — being a committed Christians yourself — to reflect on the meaning of socialization. Ask yourself: what kind of habits, beliefs and accumulated knowledge would you like your children to  acquire over the years?

PS: I’m on vacation throughout this week so comments will be closed until next week. Thank you for your understanding.