But what if we have to live without?
Are you sometimes worrying that you might lose something or that a friendship you treasure will break up? I do. At times I worry so much that it hurts. And then I ask myself, How can I prevent that from happening?
Are you, after a loss, struggling too with thoughts like I should have… We could have… Why didn’t we? I always have to stop myself from giving in to these kinds of thoughts.
It’s true that we do worry at times and there are times that it might be okay to worry, I think. However, we can worry so much that, instead of enjoying and being grateful for what we have, we are destroying the joy of it.
My brother didn’t have his driver’s license for long when he got to drive my parent’s car. It was a rather relaxed drive until my brother didn’t hit the break soon enough and crashed into the car in front of us. He felt so ashamed and asked if my dad could drive home the family car. But my dad refused and said: “You’ve brought us here, now you are taking us home, too.” My dad’s reaction was similar after my first car accident. He told me to get back into a car and drive again as soon as possible. When we fall we need to get back up again and press on.
True, it’s much easier to overcome a loss of things than it is to lose people. There are no perfect people walking this earth. We all have been hurt by friends and family but we have hurt others, as well. Yes, it’s hard to trust that special someone in your life when a former friend or family member has treated you badly and walked out on you before. But we have to learn to cut cords with the past and focus on the here and now.
Become a (prayer) warrior instead of a worrier: start praying for situations and for people in your life. Ask God for guidance. Read His Word and take notes and see how He will work in your life.